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[alwayskayaking]

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[alwayskayaking]

Then how about a wildflower bouquet? Then you get a bunch of different flowers all mixed together that way?

[rogueinladysclothing]

A bouquet for tables at a meal after the ceremony? I suppose that would allow for a variety of flowers, if that's the goal. I'd leave such planning to someone with an eye for it, as I clearly don't have it.

[No, she doesn't know about the whole 'bride has a bouquet of flowers' thing. That's not a thing where she comes from.]

[alwayskayaking]

That's also a great idea. What kind of food do you think you'd want at your wedding? I think I would like a giant lollies bar of some sort. Just all kinds of chocolates and sweets that people can eat as much of as they want!

[rogueinladysclothing]

I don't know, honestly. I haven't thought about these kinds of details. It's truly been a passing fancy, and only a very recent one at that.

I would like some honey cakes, though. That's one of the few things I know I enjoy for sweets.

[alwayskayaking]

Well, I suggest you go ahead and day dream. You might just find it to be a lot of fun.

[rogueinladysclothing]

Have you never noticed how pragmatic I am? Dreaming or wishing for anything is very far outside my norm. I honestly admire those who can do so in moderation and still enjoy themselves.

[alwayskayaking]

Practice. Try dreaming and wishing a little bit each day and I promise you'll get better at it.

[rogueinladysclothing]

But what am I supposed to be dreaming about or wishing for? About the idea of marriage? Or something else entirely?

[Help a lady out, Tim. She's struggling here.]

[alwayskayaking]

The perfect marriage. Or, if you want to start smaller? How about the perfect day? Or if you suddenly had a million dollars and could do anything with it, what would you do?

[rogueinladysclothing]

I should puzzle out an answer to all these questions, even though the results of them are useless? There's nothing to gain from this.

[Pragmatic to a fault. Sorry, Tim.]

[alwayskayaking]

There is fun to be gained. The fun of day dreaming and just pretending things are easy for a moment.

[rogueinladysclothing]

I believe our definitions of "fun" are very different. I'd much rather put my hands to use for fun than to use my mind, but I suppose that proves your point that I need to practice this. [Somehow.]

[alwayskayaking]

Try when you're laying in bed, waiting to fall asleep. Your hands should be resting at that point so all you'll have is your mind.

[rogueinladysclothing]

I imagine it would be difficult to remember what I was thinking about when I wake, assuming I don't keep myself up all night doing this. You really think this could work?

[alwayskayaking]

If you forget in the morning then you just get to come up with the idea later, right?

And it couldn't hurt to try, could it?

[rogueinladysclothing]

That sounds exhausting and entirely counterproductive to what this type of daydreaming is supposed to be for. Why not just think on it when you can write things down?

It won't, but I'm not certain I'll manage anything good with it.

[alwayskayaking]

Well, because it's just daydreaming. It's nothing you might actually act upon. For example - I daydream about going out into space. I don't plan on actually GOING to space, that sounds terrifying. So I have no reason to write anything down regarding that day dream.

[rogueinladysclothing]

[It's just a way to waste time? Dreams, this is so confusing.]

Why daydream about things you never intend to accomplish or do? Why not spend your time dreaming about things you can plan to achieve in the future? Wouldn't that be a better use of that time?

[alwayskayaking]

Because it's all just for fun. To give your brain and mind a break from serious thinking all the time.

[rogueinladysclothing]

I have a fondness for thinking seriously about even the smallest of things. Thinking seriously does allow me to take some of the sillier things that have come into my mind and make them a reality.

[alwayskayaking]

Then I suppose if you really don't want to take my advice I'm not going to force you. But I would still suggest giving it a try and if you don't like it then you can stop.

[rogueinladysclothing]

All right. I'll try. I promise nothing of the results or sticking with it, but I will try for at least a few days before I give up.

[alwayskayaking]

I wouldn't want you to stick with it if you're not enjoying it or finding it helpful. You don't even have to tell me if you end up having fun or not.

[rogueinladysclothing]

You're welcome to ask at some point in the future, preferably a few months from now so I'll have had a chance to start and stop as I please.

I do appreciate you thinking of me in a unique sort of way. It's not often I'm surprised by the ways people put effort into helping me. [Even if this feels very misguided, in her opinion.]

[alwayskayaking]

It's what friends do, right? Try to look out for each other.